Basics. Agreement Patterns: So, Too, Neither, and Either
Agreeing with Positive Statements
When someone makes a positive statement and you want to say that the same is true for you, you can use So + auxiliary + subject or Subject + auxiliary + too.
The most important rule for both patterns is that you must use the same auxiliary (helping) verb that was used in the original sentence. If there is no auxiliary verb (like in the present or past simple), use do, does, or did.
- "I am terrified of spiders." ✅ "So am I." (or "I am too.")
- "I love cold pizza." (Present simple = do) ✅ "So do I." (or "I do too.")
- "I can swim." ✅ "So can I." (or "I can too.")
In informal spoken English, you can simply say "Me too" regardless of the verb tense.
Agreeing with Negative Statements
When someone makes a negative statement (using words like not, don't, can't, didn't), you cannot use so or too. Instead, you must use Neither + positive auxiliary + subject or Subject + negative auxiliary + either.
Because neither already contains a negative meaning, the auxiliary verb that follows it must be positive. If you use either, the auxiliary verb must be negative.
- "I don't want to wake up early." ✅ "Neither do I." (or "I don't either.")
- "I can't fly without a cape." ✅ "Neither can I." (or "I can't either.")
- "I didn't understand the movie." ✅ "Neither did I." (or "I didn't either.")
Just like with positive statements, there is a quick, informal alternative for negative agreement: "Me neither."
Common Mistakes to Avoid
The most frequent mistake learners make with these patterns is mixing up the word order after So and Neither. These words require subject-verb inversion, meaning the verb comes before the subject.
- "I am exhausted." ✅ "So am I." ❌ "So I am." (This actually means "You are right, I am exhausted!" rather than "I am exhausted too.")
Another major trap is the "double negative" when using neither. Since neither means "not either," adding another negative word makes the sentence grammatically incorrect.
- "I don't like garlic." ✅ "Neither do I." ❌ "Neither don't I."
Finally, be careful not to blindly reply with "So do I" to every statement. You must listen to the specific verb the other person used. If they use the verb to be, a modal like can, or talk in the past tense, your reply must match!
- "I was completely lost." ✅ "So was I." ❌ "So did I."